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365 days

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An entire year — 365 days, twelve months, four seasons –has passed since one of my best friends, Rachel, suddenly left this earth. I’ve dreaded this day for so long. April 1 is April Fool’s Day — a day for silly pranks and jokes — and I will always now equate it with the day Rachel died. I’d texted back and forth with her early that morning on her way to the hospital, wishing her a speedy procedure and recovery, and she assured me she’d let me know when she was done. But when I hadn’t heard from her three hours later, I got worried, and shot her a quick text, figuring she must just be groggy from the anesthesia. About an hour …

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#MeanestMommyEver

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Yup, that’s me … the #MeanestMommyEver, at least according to my five-year-old. Of course, I’m probably tied for this glorious title with many of my readers (it’s a parenthood rite of passage, right?) This darling title was bestowed upon me in between the biggest hugs after she bit it big on the playground and needed some TLC … and the pride beaming on her face when she read a new book to me at bed-time. Because it’s all about the in-betweens. We remember the good and the bad, but it’s those in-between moments we’d rather forget that also define us — make us stronger women, better mothers. Moments like when our kids called us the …

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seeing the tears

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One of the hardest parts of being a work-outside-the-home mom is that you miss pretty much everything that happens with your kids between 8-5:30: from the pride of reading a new word or trying a new food to playground giggles or tears. We hear it about it after the fact — either from our kids or from their teachers. And that can be hard. I know my kids are in excellent hands, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss them or sometimes regret not being home with them more. One of the reasons I love my kids’ school so much is they have a webcam parents can peek at during the day- something I blogged about at HuffPo a few …

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One Sick, Sick Memory

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Since she was small, Maya has impressed us with her ridiculous memory and attention to detail. But this week, she flat-out blew us away. We were in California for spring break — visiting my brother and sister-in-law with my parents and sis — and we spent our last day at Disneyland, just us four. The last time we’d been to Disneyland (pic below) was after my brother’s wedding in 2014, when she was 3.5 and Ben was a mere 8 months old. She had loved it and talked often of the “big castle,” the parade, the tea cup ride, and It’s a Small World — but a lot of that, in my mind, was because she would ask to see photos/videos …

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Potty Prince Ben

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With 100{7920e18cf5186565893a18d1f69fa52bf2806dc683a7bfcea51d671d2f7d8125} certainly, I knew potty-training Ben would be different than potty-training Maya. I was right — it has been different– but not how I expected. She was relatively easy to train, but he has been significantly easier–which makes me feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to fall! We started putting Maya on the potty at 18 months and every now and then she’d go, with greater frequency over the next year. A bout with chicken pox (which I didn’t realize one can get while vaccinated, grrrr!) when she was 2 1/2 meant we were home-bound and I took that time home with her to daytime potty-train her. She had one or two accidents and never looked back. By…

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When I’m Wrong, I Say I’m Wrong

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Wow, do I owe my kid an apology. This morning I was in the midst of our usual harried morning hell trying to get four of us out the door to work or school, and Maya was dilly-dallying in her room, taking her sweet old time putting her socks on. This is not a complicated task; it’s something she’s been doing every day since she was TWO. And she was taking for-freaking-ever. I had been yelling raising my voice at her to hurry for at least ten minutes and, surprise, surprise … in spite of escalating, I was getting nowhere. You see, **rationally** I know yelling absolves nothing and only increases my blood pressure … but let’s be honest … I’…

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School “secrets”

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Like most working parents, I miss the bulk of my kids’ days  during the week — days which I hear about through their stories, their daily reports, glimpses I catch on the webcam and the funny/embarrassing anecdotes their teachers tell me on the way out the door. I sometimes feel guilty for this fact — something I’ve been pretty vocal about here on the blog — but I live for their huge smiles and wild greetings where they leap into my arms. The minute I’m with them, my work brain shuts off. I’m back in “mom mode.” And I love hearing the latest school gossip: who is now best friends with whom, who went to the office, who ate seconds of …

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Support #GivingTuesday and Mental Fitness

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This December, the Mental Fitness nonprofit (we manage the #RealDeal body image site) is participating in the December giving #GivingTuesday, a national month of giving! Our nonprofit’s goal is to raise at least five thousand dollars ($5,000) towards our 2016 programming that connects evidence-based mental wellness programs to schools across the nation in an effort to get […](Visited 32 times, 11 visits today)

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Don’t Let Regrets Stress You Out or Push You Toward Food

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Many people get hung up on regrets. What they wish they’d had or done takes up more real estate in their heads than the lives they’re currently living. To dwell in regret is like walking down a street looking backwards. While making yourself miserable, you miss the only part of your life that matters: now. […](Visited 58 times, 14 visits today)

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Maintaining a Stable Sense of Self

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Many dysregulated eaters find it difficult to keep a stable sense of self at all times, that is, to hold a core, positive regard for themselves that is undeniable and unwavering—no matter what. With an unstable sense of self, you feel fantastic about yourself when you’ve done well or when people like and praise you, […](Visited 61 times, 38 visits today)

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Fit to Fat to Fit. Are you kidding me?

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There is a new series that is supposed to give fitness trainers a glimpse into the world of those of us that have a difficult time losing weight. I find myself perplexed. On the one hand, I am thrilled that trainers will understand why we do not come to gyms. On the other hand, I […](Visited 100 times, 56 visits today)