Language has been important to me all of my life. I’m choosy with words and picky with what I say. I’m a big believer that our thoughts and our language directly affect the amount of joy and happiness we cultivate in our lives. I’ve spent over a decade studying personal development. Some people look at this field as “self-help B.S.” and these are typically the same people who refer to therapists as “shrinks”. Simply put, I’m probably not their cup of tea. I personally like all kinds of tea. It’s in my nature to examine my life, to foster a better sense of self and to learn tools on how to practice being ALL of ME as often as I can. I don’t believe …
January’s Real Life Book Club Wrap-Up
Susannah Campora, founder of Real Life Book Club (RLBC), created an authentic and affordable community of likeminded women. RLBC is for ladies who crave authenticity, wholeheartedness and connection. This tribe is about discovering who we really are, who we want to be and how we can live meaningful lives. Real Life Book Club is a place to connect with women on a deeper level. We don’t ask each other “What do you do for work? How many kids do you have? What have you been up to lately?” Instead, we dig deep. We discover the truth about how we feel, set intentions and hold each other accountable. It takes work to live purposefully. RLBC opens our hearts and allows us to pursue our dreams. The Book …
I Want to Recover From My Eating Disorder- I just want to lose some weight first!
Hello Grace, Thank you for your letter. It’s the first time anyone has ever written me a question! I loved that when I asked about changing your name for this blog post, you said, “you can shout my real name from the roof tops! My illness is not my secret anymore.” Not having a secret anymore is what has kept me healed. I videotaped myself reading your email. I wanted you to be able to see my initial reaction to your words: x Here is my response. Dear Grace, Your letter melted my heart, a little love puddle of sorts. Thank you for taking the time to reach out and let me know that you FELT my words. I immediately feel connected to people who …
Healing My Relationship with Food
I was one of 17 Bloggers chosen to be part of Audrey Michel’s, Rewired Life Virtual Blog Tour. Sign up right HERE to receive all of this goodness in your inbox! Healing My Relationship with Food: Three snacks and two meals a day. Eat less and move more. It seems so simple, so commonsensical, but it’s not for people like me. Mealtimes used to be a savior and a nightmare wrapped up in the same dark cloak of shame. I no longer feel this way. I’m just shy of celebrating my third anniversary of healing a 24-year relationship with bulimia. For as long as I can remember, I’ve associated the words food and exercise with losing weight. I grew up in an era where dieting and weight loss …
Bulimia Recovery: Creating my CHOICES Plan
It’s been close to three years since I started healing my 24-year relationship with bulimia. I’m just now ready to take a stab at creating a formal meal plan. When you sign-up for in-patient eating disorder treatment, they do this for you. When you choose to heal on your own, you have listen to your body and respond to its needs. This takes lots of practice. No one is going to do it for you, except YOU. It’s not going to be easy. In fact, it’ll be the biggest commitment of your life. The words ‘meal plan’ and ‘food plan’ are triggering for me. They take me back to many years of food journaling for weight loss- tracking portions, food intake and calories. I wanted …
Complaining is a Choice
My husband, Mike, and I recently stopped by the biggest furniture store in Denver to price out a patio set. A couple of years back we had done the same thing and there was a plethora metal tables and cushioned chairs to choose from. This year options looked sparse. Mike stayed back to measure tables while I went on a mission to track down a customer service rep. After a minute or two of searching and waiting around, I found a gentleman wearing a red vest. I asked him about their limited patio furniture selection this season, “Is it too early in the year to be shopping for outdoor tables and chairs?” He looked at me, and without any hesitation responded, “I’ve only been here 6 …
ripped-jeans-alot-of-dreams: I kinda do the exact opposite of…
ripped-jeans-alot-of-dreams: I kinda do the exact opposite of all of these, but hey at least im trying
My girlfriend and i have been with eachother for 1 year, she purges a lot during school, like she’ll purge almost every class period and wont eat at…
Try to be more verbal in your want to help her. Do some research on bulimia and try to get a better understanding of it so you can give her more In depth help. It’s hard to stand by and watch someone deteriorate so the only way you can do anything is by supporting her and really wanting to help. Recommend seeking help and if she refuses just try to love and care for her. And I know that’s shitty but if she doesn’t want help then that’s the best you can do. Em
I’ve been bulimic for 4 years now and I live with my grandma who is super old fashion and barely speaks English and wouldn’t even understand what…
There are certain things that a therapist isn’t required to tell your parents. I would look into specific things that your state/country requires them to tell. I know discussing your disorder isn’t a required thing to talk about in NJ just specific things that would cause physical harm to you or others pretty much (ie self harm or the threatening of others etc). Trying to talk through it with a therapist would be best especially if you don’t have a parent figure. I also am empathetic to the language barrier as my fathers side is Hispanic and no one really understands the culture or problems that we face due to the society we’ve been put in. I hope everything goes alright. Em
runawaylon3r: Bulimia isn’t a long haired pretty girl bending over a toilet with a tragically…
runawaylon3r: Bulimia isn’t a long haired pretty girl bending over a toilet with a tragically beautiful face on. It’s a puffed miserable face with vomit dripping from it’s chin and a fucking nose bleed. Anorexia isn’t a slim figure shyly refusing a cupcake. It’s hair growing over your freezing malnourished body. Depression isn’t a model with running mascara staring into the sunset. It’s staring at the fucking ceiling at 4 in the morning with burning eyes because you can’t even find the motivation to close them. Self harm isn’t lovely boys kissing your arms telling you you’re still beautiful. It’s nasty fucking scars that will be there forever and showers that sting. Panic attacks aren’t burying your face into your lovers chest and them telling you everything …
sharky-bandit: it is 3:20am and i’m meant to be drawing other…
sharky-bandit: it is 3:20am and i’m meant to be drawing other things but i think i needed this because i’m starting school again tomorrow. motivational grumps!
okay, so idk how seriously you’re gonna take this but i binge eat an awful lot and every time i do it, i get the urge to puke because i just feel so…
I am so proud that you tell yourself not to purge. This is the best way to deter yourself. If the feeling persists, try to go for a walk, call a friend, watch a movie, draw, etc! Distracting yourself is the best way to stop a purge. And some people can start like this but everyone’s experience is unique to their own situation. Em