I recently heard a client say that it’s easier to love her body when she’s working out, “eating well,” or otherwise perceives herself to be succeeding at society’s “thin rules.”
And I get it.
In a world that’s constantly telling you that your value in society is directly related to your performance of the thin ideal, it may feel easier to find yourself attractive or fashionable in those moments you’re conforming to, and validated by, the normative culture around you.
That being said, this definition of “body love,” meaning, to have a certain opinion of yourself—whether it be attractive, fashionable, or any other opinion—is not, in my experience, the deepest expression of the word “love.”
I want you to really think about what the term “love” means to you. I want you to think about the people that you love in your life—your children, your parents, your sisters or brothers.
Maybe you find them attractive, maybe you don’t. Maybe you find them aesthetically pleasing, maybe you don’t. Maybe you approve of their shape, maybe you don’t.
But are any of those things what it means to love them? Or is loving them something entirely different?
A mother doesn’t love her baby because she thinks it’s cute. She loves her baby, because it’s her baby.
She was put on this planet to love that baby, whether it kicks and screams or goes to sleep easy; whether it goes to college, or drops out; whether it gets tattoos, takes drugs at school, or f’ing murders someone, she loves that baby, for no other reason than because it’s her baby.
It’s an unconditional, selfless kind of love—a love of someone because she is part of you, because she is your family, because she beats your heart for you.
I’m talking about something greater than fashion, or aesthetic approval
…although, I also know that finding something beautiful or attractive almost always feels easier when you’re awake to this deeper kind of love.
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